Tuesday, January 6, 2009

Reflections on Bonding


I find it remarkable the level of bond between Mossy and myself. I think the turning point for us had to be when confronted with our daughter’s unexplained disabilities. Statistically, couples often divorce in such situations, but fortunately, we grew closer. It helped that we were in Nowhere Land, Montana at the time and had to rely on each other.

I also think this is why I can bounce back from setbacks generally. The bad side is that the unexpected loss of Mossy’s job was my undoing. I have come to rely on his steadfastness in hard times, but then it was his hard time and I had to find my inner strength. Like there was any!

Now with the snow breaking all the records and many buildings, I can new see some sunshine, anyway. Mossy is trying out a new job, to see if it fits. If not, we will make it to another day.

I also reckon this is why I have responded so strongly to the Twilight books. It is all about sacrifice for love and unbreakable bonding. Why do they keep saying it’s only for the young and females? Those theme apply to us all. Plenty of scary stuff for the truly macho. Mossy is finally reading them and enjoying them.

My favorite quote:

“Before you, Bella, my life was like a moonless night. Very dark, but there were stars-points of light and reason. Suddenly everything was on fire; there was brilliancy, there was beauty. When you were gone, when the meteor had fallen over the horizon, everything went black. Nothing had changed, but my eyes were blinded by the light. I couldn’t see the stars anymore And there was no more reason for anything.”
Eclipse, by Stephenie Meyer

That struck a chord with me. We didn’t bond quick, like that implies, but it has grown so I feel like that now. So, whatever happens, I can cope. Love you honey, Sunny

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